in her youth

For most part of my life, I have always hated been referred to as "BLACK" or "DARK". I even hated it when people referred to me as a "black beauty". My issue was, why can't you appreciate my beauty without saying black. I mean there are a lot of fair beautiful girls but they are never referred to as "fair beauty" when they are been complimented. So why is it different with the black skinned girls? I however got to understand that many people attach black with ugly, so it's "abnormal" that someone who's black is also beautiful hence there's this need to add "black" before beautiful. It's like saying this person is black but she's beautiful? In other words, "it is rare". Anyway, I have gotten over that. Honestly because I realized that some people do genuinely appreciate your beauty regardless of the "black" being said. Alot of people have also made some very unappreciated ...

An inevitable part of our daily lives is conversation. Whether it is with ourselves or with others, we converse and when we converse, we use WORDS. For most part of my adolescent age, I was in constant conversation with myself, either through writing or speaking. I remember having a diary when I was in boarding school (senior secondary school) and I was very consistent with it. I'd write a summary of everything I did each day and I'd also write how I felt about them. When I left boarding school, I became less consistent with it and started doing more of personal conversation (which I still do till today). Most days, I was reprimanding myself over something I didn't do right or get right and I never even took time to appreciate myself for even getting through the day. Alot of which played a role in the person I was then. Most times, the power of words are overlooked. We just say them and then be on our way, unbothered about the impact they make. We fa...

A major challenge many young people like myself face after graduating from college or university is getting a job. School was not a bed of roses and although it came with it's fun, you're out now to begin a new struggle. This struggle is even tougher in underdeveloped and poorly managed countries like Nigeria. Here are a few things you can do when you can't get a job after college. 1. COMMIT TO FAMILY If you're one who still live with your parents or family, not getting a job has essentially given you more time to spend, connect and bond with them. Lend a helping hand to your parents and guardians while you wait for something positive to come out from your situation. Clean the house, cook meals, take care of your younger ones, run errands and more. Remember, no good time spent with family is wasted. 2. LEARN A SKILL (preferably, a digital skill) While you can't get a job, you have an opportunity to learn a skill. It could be baking, sewing, hair dressing, makeup, el...